How Orgasms Work
This is one complicated, yet important part of sexuality. Among its many complexities are the attempt to understand how exactly it works and how to achieve it easily. Not many people know that there are various ways to orgasm, and different types of it. Well, maybe they do, but they just gamble around and do a lot of things to make it work. That should stop after you read this article.
What physically happens in a woman’s body during orgasm is that when she’s sexually aroused her vagina, uterus, and anus, — and for some women, the abdomen, hands, and feet — contract rapidly. Some ejaculate, releasing a liquid out of the urethra that contains a mix of urine and whitish fluid from the peri-urethral glands. However, people orgasm in different ways. Here`s why you should know what works for you and your partner. Let`s talk about some of the types of orgasms that you probably didn`t know exist, and how to get them.
6 Types of Orgasms
You probably know already that the clitoris is a small organ with numerous nerve endings, peeking out from the tiptop of the vulva, and usually covered by a hood. It extends down from within the labia. To stimulate the clitoris, you should rub it gently with the fingers, palm, or tongue in a circular or back and forth motion. To have a clitoris orgasm, get it wet by arousal or add some lubricant to it. You may then apply faster and harder pressure in a repetitive motion until you orgasm.
Anal orgasms are more common with men because of the position of the prostate. They can have an anal orgasm by rubbing the outside of the anal opening or stimulating the inside of the anus with a finger. You are strongly advised to use lubricants when having anal sex because the anus doesn’t get wet during arousal. You may suffer severe tears, which in turn, may cause infections.
It is common to find men misconstrue vaginal orgasm as the best way for women to orgasm. Unknown to them, a number of women find it difficult, especially when trying to achieve it with a penis; sounds strange, right? Inserting fingers or a sex toy into the vagina may help you orgasm faster. Do repetitive circular movements with the fingers or toy so that it feels so good till the feelings build up, causing you to orgasm.
The G-spot is on the front wall of the vagina, about halfway between the vaginal opening and the cervix. Even though you can`t see it, you can feel it by inserting a finger into the vagina and pressing forward. It`s that slightly bumpy, rigid, or spongy area within. If you press the spot gently and stroke it lightly for a while, you`ll get a G-spot orgasm.
Here`s how it works: when you’re sexually aroused, the G-spot gets filled with blood and swells up. If you touching it with fingers, a penis, or a vibrator, it can trigger a deeply intense climax. Right there! You`ve got a G-Spot orgasm.
This is a climax that happens when two or more erogenous zones are stimulated at the same time. Having a G-spot penetration alongside clitoral touching is a common way to experience a blended orgasm. Other ways include vaginal penetration along with nipple or anal stimulation, or all of them happening simultaneously. Speak of heaven in bed!
Wondering what coregasm is? It`s simply an exercise orgasm. Sounds new, right? Some women reach climax while having a tough workout. It`s rare, however, it happens.
8 Tips on Having Better Orgasms
Communicate with your Partner
Communication is key in sexuality. Tell your partner what you want, how you want it, and where you want it done. Don`t assume they know, and don’t give false impressions of satisfaction. As you communicate your sexual preferences, you should also ask for theirs and find ways to pleasure each other.
You should also be open to experimentation. Sometimes, you never really know how amazing certain sexual activities are until you try them out. Try different sex positions, touch different parts of your bodies with other parts you haven`t tried, and just explore as much as you can.
Focus on your Breathing
There are physical and psychological steps you can take to orgasm better, and with ease, and concentrating on your breathing is one of them. If you vary your breathing pattern from slow and deep to short and quick, you`ll get more aroused and orgasm faster.
Understand your Body
How well do you understand your body? You will have better orgasms if you understand how your body works. A major reason many women don’t climax is that they know what excites them sexually. To understand your body, pay attention to the kind of touch that you find most pleasurable, and get your partner to do it more, and in dynamic ways to see what exactly suits you most.
Appreciate your Body
People who aren`t proud of their bodies tend to be distracted during sex. If you are obsessed with what you consider to be flaws in your body, it may affect your sexual response. Getting your head out of the way during intercourse is one of the most effective means of getting an orgasm.
Exercise your Vaginal Muscles
Exercise the muscles that surround the vagina by squeezing or contracting them. This will take blood to the pelvic floor and builds arousal. Women who do this exercise increase their male partner’s pleasure and help them orgasm faster and better. Men can also do this exercise to have better erections and boost the intensity of their orgasms.
Play with Toys
Use sex toys in various ways to arouse yourself and orgasm faster. Women who use sex toys while in bed with their partners find it easier to orgasm, as well as take the pressure of getting them to orgasm off their partners. Older women particularly need sex toys because they lose sensation as their hormone levels drop, owing to age.
See a Romantic Movie
Romantic movies can put you and your partner in the mood for sex and make it more pleasurable when you do. Visual stimulation works for men, while imagination works better for women. Romantic movies can put you both in that perfect mood, and eventually make you orgasm better.
Interesting Sex and Orgasm Facts
- The cerebral cortex and the limbic system are involved in men’s libido.
- When people are aroused, signals move from their cerebral cortex to some parts of the brain and nerves that are vital to sex.
- Male orgasms usually last about six seconds, while the female orgasms last about 20 seconds.
- Studies claim that women who take hormonal contraceptives are more attracted to men who have less physical masculine characteristics, and with lower testosterone levels.
- Women can orgasm in about four minutes through masturbation, while it may take over 30 minuted through intercourse.
- The penis has about 4,000 nerve endings, while the clitoris has over 8,000.
- Heart rates speed up and blood flows to the genitals before men have erections.
- The limbic system is associated with emotions, motivation, and sex drive.
- Testosterone increases in the morning and drops at night.
- The word “clitoris”, in Greek, means “divine and goddess-like.”
- A teaspoon of semen contains five calories.
- The average speed of sperm during ejaculation is 28 mph.