What to Know Before Having Sex
Not many people get the right and adequate information about sex before engaging in it. What`s there to know about sex, really? Have you answered some vital questions about yourself and your sexuality? Or are you just about to ask sex because you think everyone is doing it? Read this piece and see if you still want to do it.
7 Things to Know Before your First Sex
Know who you`re Having Sex with
How well do you know the person you plan to have sex with? That actually matters more than you may imagine. Are they a partner in a committed relationship or a random stranger you have a crush on? Are you sure you want to have sex with them now?
Know the Risks Involved
Do you know what`s at stake if you have sex? Are you ready for these? Also, what plans do you have in place for reducing the possible risks? You need to have some good knowledge of pregnancy, STDs and STIs, as well as the psychological effects and body changes that may come after sex. You should also have a plan for birth control if you`re not ready to have babies.
Be Sure you`re Ready
Sex may not be as simple as you imagine. It actually isn`t. Are you ready for the likely awkwardness that will come with your first sex? How well can you manage your relationship with your partner after sex? Even though you may not have all the answers, try to imagine all the possible scenarios and be sure it`s something you want to do.
Accessibility to Healthcare
As much as you may try various birth control methods, one thing you should have in mind is that they are not 100% reliable. Have in mind that you may eventually get pregnant. Same way methods to prevent STIs and STDs aren`t entirely reliable. Your assured accessibility to healthcare is vital in case any of these happen. Ordinarily, even without any of such occurrences, people who are sexually active should go for routine tests regularly.
Your Partner`s Orientation
You`re not alone in this. You need to know how much you and your partner agree on issues of sex. For instance, what do they think about certain sexual activities? Have you found out if there are mismatched desires? You should also know what they think about birth control and which options they prefer. If your partner is not as committed to safe sex as you are, then that may be a problem. So choosing a partner is beyond how attractive they are, or their skills in bed. If you both don`t agree on some fundamental things, you may have issues.
Practicing safe sex requires trusting your partner. Do you know their sexual history and preferences? You also need to be sure if they have the same opinion as you on issues of fidelity, as you ay be at risk of infections and emotional trauma if you disagree on such grounds.
Your Partner`s Medical History
Do you know if your partner has ever been treated for STIs or STDs? As awkward as the question is, you need an answer to it. You should also know if they had been sexually active and tried some birth control methods, and if they had, find out what worked for them and what didn`t.
Some Other Facts you Should Know Before Having Sex
- There have been many myths about the hymen around for years, some of which even medical practitioners believed.
- The hymen is a stretchy collar of tissue and has nothing to do with virginity. This means that you cannot tell if someone is a virgin or not by looking at their hymen.
- The hymen is inside the vaginal entrance and protected by the two layers of lips of the vulva: the labia major and the labia minora.
- It is okay for females not to bleed the first time they have sex.
- There are various factors that influence whether bleeding happens or not, and one of them is the nature of the hymen: while all hymens are stretchy, some are more stretchy than others.
- After puberty, the hymen becomes more stretchy.
- The penis and clitoris, are homologous, that is, they form from the same tissue in a developing embryo.
- The area of the brain that gets stimulated during heroin intake for addicts is the same as the area of the brain that orgasms stimulate for men.
- Sex cures headaches and migraines.
- Sperm contains proteins that have the same anti-wrinkle effect as moisturizers
- Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.
- Some people experience arousal when eating delicious food as when having sex.
- Good sex triggers the region of the brain that’s associated with falling in love.
- People who have sex about twice a week have a stronger immune system.
- Reports from as early as 2968 B.C. prove that men did have multiple orgasms, a phenomenon more commonly associated with women.
- A person’s inability to reach orgasm is called anorgasmia, literally meaning “lack of orgasm”.
- The average man needs 2–10 minutes to climax.
- The average woman needs 20 minutes to climax.
- Some women, surprisingly, have been reported to climax with merely 30 seconds of masturbation.
- Some women orgasm during childbirth.
- People have reported orgasming from simply thinking about orgasming.
- People who have had sex reassignment surgery have stimulated orgasms.
- The reason that sometimes a person looks like they’re in pain when they’re orgasming is that two of the brain regions that are activated by pain are also activated during orgasm.
- Orgasms relieve pain for about ten minutes after climax.
- Transudation is the process of vaginal lubricant moving from the blood capillaries to coat the vaginal canal, colloquially known as a woman getting wet.
- If a woman feels insecure about her relationship, she is less likely to orgasm.
- The first written mention of female ejaculation is by Aristotle.
- Women and men with spinal cord injuries can experience orgasm when a partner stimulates the hypersensitive skin around their injury.
- A man can ejaculate without an erection.
- In Egyptian folklore, the world was created when the god Atum masturbated.
- Medieval writers called pre-ejaculate “the distillate of love”.
- An orgasm involves practically every body system, even though it’s primarily felt in the brain.
- People have been using sex toys for orgasm for centuries.
- Clitoral hood piercings don’t have any negative impact on orgasm.
- Circumcision doesn’t negatively affect a man’s ability to achieve orgasm, however, foreskin leads to increased duration.
- When a person achieves climax, the areas of the brain that process fear and vigilance shut down.
- An orgasm by itself only burns 2–3 calories, but you can burn up to 50 calories during foreplay and intercourse.
- To encourage people to talk about masturbation without feeling embarrassed, the San Francisco Center for Sex and Culture holds a Masturbate-A-Thon each year.
- A report says about 15–20% of American women have never orgasmed.
Now that you Know…
Sex is not an act to rush into. You need all the information you can garner, and preparedness also. Now you are better informed and can make more logical decisions before having sex. The major problem people encounter is not having the right information. This is why they make uninformed choice and regret doing so.